Are Special Interest Dating Sites Worth It?

One thing I never really thought twice about was dating on a special interest site. Normally I wouldn’t waste my time with a site that limits my opportunities as far as dating choices go.

An attractive friend of mine convinced me otherwise. She’s an avid horse enthusiast, and was really high on site she found, full of like minded people. I was reserved about the whole thing, thinking it was going to be slim pickings.

Boy was I wrong.

Not only were there a LOT of people on there, some of the women I found were quite beautiful. I couldn’t fathom the interest being that strong, or being such a great method of connecting.

I spoke with my friend more. These people are serious about this, and we started chatting how this could present great opportunities for dating.

Here are a few tips to help you out if you decide to take try a special interest dating site.

1) Make sure you ARE interested.

If you join a site for horse enthusiasts, then make sure you actually like horses. If you are just trying to make time with someone while faking an interest, it will eventually blow up.

If that does happen, you have no one to blame but yourself. They joined for a reason, and that was to find people who liked what they like. It’s a reasonable expectation then, so respect it.

2) Understand the people you are dealing with.

If you join a group that are primarily role players, for example, you might find that it’s not an easy game, far less easy than a normal site would be. The competition is stiff, and you might find fewer attractive women on average.

And before the beautiful ladies who role play decide to attack me, understand that there are exceptions to the rule. Just make sure you KNOW how the particular social group operates.

3) If you are a dilettante, brush up!

If you are dating within these groups, take the time to brush up on the respective interest. If you are going to be dating this woman, and you know she’s interested in horses or the like, then you already have a topic to discuss! This should be a no brainer. Spend some time focusing on this.

4) Don’t assume that they are any different than you are.

This can seem to be a bit contradicting in terms of what I wrote above. Some of them might be a bit fanatical about their interests, but all in all, they are still women. Now, I could imagine that you’ll find a few strange girls who can’t talk about anything else, but they are rather rare.

An example is the BDSM community. They are just like everyone else. Don’t assume they aren’t normal people.

Overall, these sites can be fun. Just make sure you aren’t trying to fish in a well you have no business in. You can find many wonderful women at these sites. Good luck!

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